love ..life ..and me...

I was thinking from so many days, months and years about love…sometimes conclude that it is so unimportant topic that I should not think over it but sometimes feel that this one thing is every where ..it lies in everything and one who unveils its true meaning, will got the key to make this world beautiful ….

Unarguably there are different ways to love a person but here I want to focus one particular form which is most famous and talked about.

I am not talking about mother’s love not father’s love. It is the love of a lover that I want to discuss…

There will not be any answer if I ask why someone falls in love…now let me figure out some of the possible reasons (n ya I am writing on behalf of guys..): I like her because she is very beautiful…because she is only girl around me…because we are with each other from past few time…she helped me a lot during something….we are chat friend from sometime now…n blaw blaw blaw…but I am afraid that love is so a big word to put in any small limit….

It is very difficult to differentiate true love from attraction, infatuation, crush etc…as far as I think true love is something that if happens in life..changes the way of life…it gives a meaning to life ..give new reasons to live….it makes life beautiful…it has power to transform one’s life…it gives a positive attitude for the life…a new way to look at the world and people…it brings the best of you outside….

Though people believe that if someone is trying to change you then it is not love but I feel true love is one where one person want to change other to make him focus on his path of destination…to change him for his better..to give him small pain so that he/she can get big happiness…but it is really difficult to recognize love…many time it happens that after losing some one we realize their value in our life….

People believe that if you love someone then you should tell them as early as possible about your feelings…but I m nt at all agree over this, what I feel is that if we love some one then first we need to know what role we can play in his/her life. ..and in what way our feelings affect that person….if that person is happy with the way things are going in his/her life and we feel that by telling somebody about your feeling may make things difficult then is there any need to tell them….???

Love is when you fit yourself in somebody’s life that whenever he/she looks at you they feel secure…true love is to give care without expecting anything in return….if you are expecting something then it is no longer love…..n it will hurt badly….love is not to love some one and expect something from them or committed to spend whole life with some one…contrary to a common belief I don’t think it is compulsory to convert a relation into marriage…..really…if I know well in advance that I am going to marrying someone then I will care her for obvious reasons….the risk should be their….rather if I feel I am the one who can give her more happiness without hurting even a single person related to her then only it will justify its value…no love can ever hurt anybody…I mean how it can be????

To care some one without telling them about your feelings, to fit in their life to make them complete without expecting a company for whole life…to bear the pain and give the best is the beauty of love and life….

For me the love is to make them laugh till it hurts, to tease them, to make them forget all problems, tensions. To hold them when they feel low, to clap even at small achievements, to make them feel special…that’s my definition of love….

I don’t know why people behave so strangely when they came to know about somebody’s feelings for them…I think it is always a special feeling that somebody loves you, think about you and for at least one that person you are most important thing in life… one should welcome such feelings and always respect those persons in life because it is always difficult to find a heart which have feelings for you besides it is encouraging to know that you have something which someone is liking….

In my life I meet many people and many time I feel I was in love but sooner or later I got it that sometimes it was attraction or I was impressed or many things….now spending a considerable part of life, when I look back I found that all the time I got very good friends…but never find anybody who can understand me fully….though some friends were really worth of life but they came for very sort period of 1-2 year….and I wait a lot for somebody to come and love me without reasons….but then I feel that, to love somebody or to worthy of somebody’s love you need to love yourself….that is first and foremost imp task…..now I started loving me…I m loving things around me…I m giving time to myself….and then I realize that I got a true and final love of my life….yppn that’s ME……now I m in love with myself…..